Girl keeps dissapointing you - How to not come off needy
Written by GQ Playa
Friday, 19 September 2008
Here's a question from Ryan, he writes
Here is a quick question for my fellow artists: When we kino escalate with a girl and she does not accept our escalation we punish her by displaying negative body language like throwing her hand down, DHVing and then kino escalating again. "Compliance test-IOD-DHV". This is done in the first stages of the game. When in a relationship and your girl misbehaves we do not want to reward her for it, we should "punish" her for the behavior. Here's the question, how do we appropriately punish our girlfriends for minor bad behavior that is not kino related? Just small things such as not calling when she said she would, having random guy friends spend the night at her place, etc. Normally I would IOD or disqualify but being in a relationship I'm not sure if it would have the same effect. She is a professional model, who does artistic nude / runway/ magazine ads, etc. She gets a lot of attention when we go out. I fear asking her why she didn't call will display insecurity and neediness. But perhaps this is the solution to be used at this stage in the game, a committed relationship.
Hey Ryan. This is more of a relationship question, PUA deals more with pickup. No worries we're still here to help. From the sound of it, you're already putting the girl on a pedestal, telling us that she's a model and what not. If every girl you dated was a model would you of told us that or even cared about it? Get over that and treat her as a regular human being, as physically she is made of all the same parts as an ugly girl just has some of her biological matter arranged in a nicer way. Don't come from a scarcity standpoint. If you got a model girlfriend you'll probably be able to get another one. Get what I'm saying?
It doesn't sound like you guys are in a committed relationship yet if the girl would just let a guy sleepover without first telling you. You shouldn't accept that type of behavior. You're past the stages of mystery method and its time to be yourself. Sooner or later it's going to come out if it's bugging you, so it's best to just bring it up. Approach it from a strong frame of yours and why it bothers you, don't let her control the situation and try to talk it down and say "oh it's just my good friend from high school". Tell her if it's going to be one-sided like this you're just going to leave her as you're not interested in such a relationship.
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, on 26-10-2008 10:01 Hi, I just found your blog and am intrigued. @Ryan, I would eliminate the idea of "punishment" from your repertoire. Any guy does that with me it's a huge turnoff and screams insecurity/manipulation. What works better IMHO is pure non-reactivity. The best naturals in my life are simply non-reactive.
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